Monday 15 June 2015

Guest post by Amber Hatch, author of Nappy Free Baby

When I was researching my book Nappy Free Baby: a practical guide to baby-led potty training from birth, I found out some amazing facts.



In the UK in 1958 – only two generations ago – a study of 5000 mothers found that a whopping 85% introduced the potty before six months, with 60% even starting before one month.


So why on earth did mums (and dads) put their babies on the potty so early? 


They were capitalising on the fact that newborn babies are born with a reflex that makes them empty their bladder and bowel when their nappy is off (did your baby ever wee or poo when you were trying to change her?), the reflex is also triggered when they are held in a squat position.  After a while, babies get used to using those muscles, and releasing them becomes a habit whenever they are held in position. This means that instead of being conditioned to wee and poo in a nappy, they become accustomed to using the potty. 


Those mums did it because it saved them a lot of washing, it prevented nappy rash, it made their babies more comfortable and it made the transition to toilet independence earlier and smoother.  Modern parents have also found there are a lot more benefits, which I’ll talk about later.


So why doesn’t anyone do that anymore?



Right at the start of the sixties, two events marked a watershed in the history of nappies and potty training. 


1)     In 1961 Proctor and Gamble launched a new nappy innovation: Pampers

2)     In 1962 Dr T. Berry Brazelton published a paper that advocated a delayed start to potty training.

Brazelton knew that potty training was possible from the earliest weeks by utilising reflexes and conditioning, but he thought that parents would put too much pressure on their babies, and use coercive tactics to try to encourage potty use before they could participate consciously.  He argued that it was best to wait until after 18 months before initiating potty use at all.   At that point, toddlers would be able to take a more independent role in the process.


Brazelton’s advice, coupled with the advent of disposables and their effective advertising campaigns, meant that toilet training was delayed until later and later, and nowadays many parents don’t even start until 2 ½ years or even later. Most parents have no idea that babies are actually capable of using a potty from birth.


So is BLPT coercive?


No! BLPT is an extremely gentle and intuitive way to respond to your baby.  With BLPT, parents begin to learn how their baby communicates a full bladder or bowel – in little babies, that might be through crying , grimacing, grunting or wriggling.  The parent also get to learn babies’ regular patterns for urination and defecation.  Holding baby out to help them pass a bowel movement or empty their bladder is very much like helping them to burp.   They can do it by themselves, but they will feel much more comfortable if you help them.  And you will feel more connected to baby, too.  So BLPT is far from coercive.  Parents find that in fact it opens up a whole new channel of communication with their baby, so that they become closer and more confident.


Do I have to watch my baby all the time?

No.  For a start, you don’t have to do BLPT all the time.  You can just do it when it makes sense for you.  Many parents find it very easy to predict when their baby is about to poo, so a lot so parents just do BLPT for bowel movements.  This can be so successful that they rarely have to change a dirty nappy.  Other parents just pop baby on the potty or hold them over the loo every time they change them.  This helps nappies stay drier and cleaner for longer.  Some parents just do it when their baby is crying and uncomfortable to help them pass wind and poo.  Some parents use the method at home, but not when out and about.  There are many different ways to use the technique.

It’s completely up to you how often you do it.  Most parents use nappies alongside BLPT, at least during the first year.




How can I find out more?


I’ve just published a book Nappy Free Baby: a practical guide to baby-led potty training from birth, (Vermilion, 2015) where you can read all about this method.


To celebrate its launch, Real Nappies for London is running a competition to win a copy of my book. 




To enter – all you have to do is try putting your baby on the potty the next time you change her/him and see what happens. Then write a comment in the box below to tell us how it went. The best comment wins a copy of my book!  We will announce the winner on Monday 29 June at 12 noon.

You can also find out more about BLPT on my website www.nappyfreebaby.co.uk

11 comments:

  1. I don't have my baby yet (due in a week), but I'm so keen to try this from the very beginning! Can I still enter?!

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  2. I've been popping my 6 month old on a potty before her clean nappy for about a month now, since she started almost sitting up. I haven't told any other mum friends I've been doing it because I was worried I'd be judged as bonkers or doing something my baby wasn't ready for. Now I have a term- BLPT- I feel more confident explaining what we're doing and why! My baby has always peed when the nappy came off so using a potty was very natural for us. Inspired by reading this today, and the warm weather, I gave baby a long stretch of nappy-free time with one trip to the potty. To my surprise baby peed on the potty, showing me that she's started to make an association... She also had a wee in the garden, but that's ok! Glad to hear about Amber's book.

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  3. Hi, I'm Sharron, I work for the children's continence charity, ERIC on their helpline where we give information and support to people about all sorts of continence related issues, toilet training included.

    Potty training is about doing what you feel is right for your child, there is no right or wrong way. If your child is showing signs of awareness and can hold onto their wee for an hour to start with, then that’ll be a good time to sit them on the potty.

    Children are usually ready to potty train from about 18 months to 3 years old, they need to be physically ready and able to sit themselves on the potty and get up when finished. Babies do lots of little wees, but as the bladder develops it learns to store more so toddlers do fewer but bigger wees.

    It's good to ask yourself whether your child poos at about the same time every day. This will help you work out the best time to sit them on the potty to do a poo. Usually 20 minutes after they’ve eaten their tea is a good time to sit them on the potty to poo. Make sitting on the potty fun, use blowing toys to help push the poo out and reward them for being so clever, but don’t make them sit there too long or they’ll lose their enthusiasm.

    Motivate them by planning a reward system & make it fun.

    Check out ERIC's website for more tips for potty training http://www.eric.org.uk/PottyTraining/potty_training and sign up to 'Potty Training Live' for tips and advice for potty training this summer, more info can be found at http://www.eric.org.uk/News/News/news/811

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  4. We've extended the deadline of the competition until noon on Friday 3 July. We'd love some more entries. Here's a bit of inspiration from mummy blogger Lulastic; http://lulastic.co.uk/parenting/nappyfree-newborn/

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  5. Hello,
    As I am concern, I did like my Mum. As soon as our son was able to sit unsupported, we sat him on a potty every morning with a book. He was 6 months old. He was used to open his bowel as soon as we laid him on the changing table ;-) His routine stayed the same and we only had to wash the potty and not the nappy. We continued to put him regularly on his potty, still with books. Now he is one year old. He really likes to sit on it and he is always doing at least one wee in it. If we remove him too early from the potty he complains and few minutes after he does a poo or a wee. Ok, everytime, it takes us more time to change his nappy, but we have less nappies to wash.
    Since our son's birth, he only had one nappy rash when his teeth came out. It is funny to see that we did BLPT without knowing its name. I am born in the seventies and Pampers was so expensive that my mum had to continue with washable nappies and she potty-trained me and my siblings very early. Some people say that it can affect the confidence of the children. Our son is very confident and he is a happy child.
    Hope my experience will help others parents to try BLPT. You do not care about the judgment of the others parents. We have to help our children to be confident and independant. Potty training is part of it!

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  6. My husband's most oft repeated question about our future role as parents while I was pregnant was "How soon can we potty train him/her again?" And he was interested in elimination communication (or the far better named Baby Led Potty Training!) when I mentioned it. We had planned on cloth nappying our little one. At 1 week old she was put into a Pavlik Harness and we have found navigating her straps with cloth more difficult so are temporarily using disposables. I would love to put my mama observation skills to the test and try our now 5 1/2 week old daughter with a potty (and reduce my guilt at this enormous pile of landlandfill she generates daily).
    Alas since I am discovering this blog post at 23:13am I shall not trust my sleep deprived self to try her with a potty til morning- we need to keep her harness clean! Hopefully I will remember to come back and enter the competition properly!

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  7. Well I awoke this morning to the gurgling of explosive nappy doom-in-progress and wasn't brave enough to whip the nappy off while she was already in the middle of her business. However I did sit her over a potty of sorts (the cloth wipes 'mucky' bucket with some cloth wipes around the edge to make a seat). While she didn't pee or poop this time, she was alert and seemed curious.
    I think she might be a great candidate for BLPT as she really dislikes nappy changes and has a tendency to 'stress poop' and either breaks wind with added poop every few seconds throughout the change (often soiling multiple nappies per change) or she projectile pees.
    I'd much prefer supporting her to do this over a potty than up the wall!!
    So there's my entry. 😊

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    1. Congratulations Kayleigh! Please email me at Hilary@lcrn.org.uk with your address so I can send you a copy of the book.

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  8. Our competition is now closed. Thanks to everyone who sent in a comment. Congratulation to Kayleigh who wins a copy of 'Nappy Free Baby'

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  9. Just emailed now :) Thankyou! :-D

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